How to achieve happiness

Psychologist/ Jawaher  Brkat

We are all looking for happiness but happiness is not a goal itself.

It is the product of what you love to work and your communication with others honestly. Happiness is to realize yourself, to make your own decisions, to do what you want because you want to and to live and enjoy every moment of it. It lies in achieving your independence from the others, allowing others to enjoy their freedoms and looking for the best in yourself and in the world around you.

It's easy to walk in the opposite direction, adhere to the idea that others should show their interest for you, blame others, control others when things go wrong with you, engage in relationships and business, live on the margins of the lives of others, don't flip your life, but you do not actually live a happy life when live your real  life, where you just get a sense that your life does not have a goal or meaning.

The first step is to overcome the belief that someone will enter your life in order to change it, start to change yourself, do not rely on anyone may come to save you and opens to you the gates of life, you are the only person who can take the fiery role which frees your life restrictions , otherwise your life will remain constrained handcuffs .

You deserve happiness, but you also deserve to get what you want, look at the unfortunate things in your life you'll find that it is a number of times that you failed to realize yourself.  Achieving happiness requires to face in some risks which are small but important at the same time.

So how do we achieve happiness, that happiness is to accept yourself as it is now.

Achieving happiness is not to achieve perfection, rich, authority or influence

Achieving happiness is to love yourself with all of your current characteristics, know your mistakes, but do not let it to be an excuse to stop loving yourself as it is. Happiness depends at the first place on the human relationship with God. Happiness increases and perpetuates when the relation with God become closer.